As humans, we get sad for whatever reason. Whether something terrible happens to us or we just feel awful about life. And when we get sad, we're bound to cry. And when nobody feels our pain, that doesn't help. But when we do have someone that's there for us, we feel that's all we want is to be listened to. They just know how bad we feel and want to see to it that we're alright. And sometimes, when they hear us and comfort us, we feel good as new, as if the displeasure we had just experienced never even happened. But who is that one who can always brighten your day? Whether it be a friend of yours, family, someone here, or even your pets?
For me, there aren't really that many people I get to turn to in real life. Whether it's because I'm just not in need of it or because I don't know who I think can help me best, I'll let you decide. Sometimes I'll post on Facebook hoping someone will show up, but eh. But I guess you can say most of the people I rely on when I'm sad are those in TSI, like Bijou, and on rare occasion PokéCommunity as well.
How about you? Who do you come to when you're in need of comfort, whether it be here or otherwise? Discuss.
Tbh, I sort of have a couple of shoulders to cry on. Regine is my main, but sometimes I'll talk to Katey or Bess. Surprisingly, Benny has been there for me many times over. I'm thankful for all my friends and it says a lot if I can talk to people about my feelings.
It's tough for me to find people who can console me, probably because I'm not a very good shoulder to cry on myself. I don't usually find comfort in general "everything's fine you're wonderful it's ok don't worry<333333" type messages and I feel bad about that because I know people have really positive intentions, but it just doesn't help me in most cases.
Offline, I have my best friend and roommate who is usually pretty good at helping me feel better. He's known me for over 5 years so it makes sense. He'll often know if I need to talk it out, be left alone, or just be distracted with something fun. He's been literally a shoulder to cry on for years. Online, I'll go to Solar if I need love and warm fuzzies, Jim if I am feeling especially low, and Boss if it's serious because I trust him with everything and he is always supportive and realistic with me when I need it. Those are the consistent four but there are other people I've gone to as well who have been wonderful. n.n
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uuuuuhhhhhhh the only shoulder I cry on is that of the lard.
Fo' real, there are a few people in my life that I trust with everything. I'm slow to trust people irl, but there's at least one person I can talk to about anything. I recently did use them as a shoulder to cry on.
Online, there's a few more people. Since we're all name dropping: Ice_Dragon, Grelzar and Solar are three people who I trust 100% and know too much about me. I do have specific friends I go to for specific advice, but really, just talking to anyone I consider a close friend lifts my spirits sometimes.
Also Diarkia124, Bossvelt, Shhmew and Bijou are people I confide in. You don't find people like them everywhere, so I'm lucky to be able to call them my friends.
Usually when I'm crying I shut myself off from pretty much everyone. But yeah, while I haven't really gone to people recently when I've been sad, on the forums I usually go to a few people. If I'm in any way showing that I'm sad, Kaity is normally able to tell and since I feel like I can talk to her about pretty much anything she's definitely someone I go to when I'm sad and feel like talking to someone. I also go to Andrew most times, especially if I need a good laugh because he makes lots of jokes. There was a time back during last school year when I went to him almost daily actually. If I'm awake at 3 a.m. because of a spider or need someone to tell me I'm being stupid when I am being stupid (which is usually) then I know I can go to Brett. Brett always offers advice that is purely logical. I've gone to Jaye a few times as well when I was sad too.
Offline, my boyfriend would be the person I would go to when I'm feeling down since he knows exactly what to do a majority of the time.
Online, I go to Jasper especially when I need someone to talk to about whatever is on my mind along with Ravey and Andrew from time to time. Andrew is really good at helping me calm down when I'm panicking, bless his heart. I also cannot thank Jasper enough for all that he goes through when it comes to me lol. Talking to Ravey of course, always puts me in a happy mood.
I also go to Rin or Molly especially when I want someone to talk to who isn't a guy.
Hmm. Offline there's my husband; he understands, listens, and knows ♥ And of course it's reciprocated~ Also my grandparents
Online, and in general life too honestly, I'm a pretty private person when it comes to me being down regardless of the degree (just kinda down or i'm gonna cry my anxiety has blown up in my face super down). It's really, really difficult for me to open up about the things that are bothering me in my life. With me being the awkward derp that I am, it makes it more difficult to connect personally with anyone to the point where I'm comfortable anyway, aahh >__<
That being said, there's one active Azuri person I know I can go to any time I'm feeling down — and you know who you are, silly minion. c: There's also one other off Azuri that I love dearly; we've been there for each other for years in both of our worst times and we know exactly how to comfort one another. Shoutout to you Ami because I know you stalk me on Azuri you CREEP
I'm really grateful to have people that I can open up to when I feel like rubbish, and that they allow me to help them in the same way n/n
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Offline it's my boyfriend, one of my best friends, and my mom.
Online I'm not too sure. I'm sure my friends would listen but I tend to not let on when I'm having a tough time if I can, though you can probably tell if you know me. I think I would go to Molly (Solar) if I were to go to somebody here, and I have talked to Scott (Pendraflare) before too. There are more, but many of them have left the site so....
In real life, I kinda just keep to myself and get over things in a day or so.
But online, the person who I probably look to the most when I'm sad is Isabel or Mystical_Dragonair. Girlfriend or great friend, she's been there for me since we met and I'm glad that we can openly talk about anything.
Other people I go to include:
-Brett (Dregran): It's funny that once we finally started talking to each other a lot, we've been open to each other about problems we have online or in real life.
-Ravey (Revan): He's a smart guy and can objectively look at any situation and give you his recommendation. If you don't take his suggestion, he will still encourage your choice.
-Chris (Silver): I don't go to him as much, but we're not afraid to tell each other what's been bothering us and at least talk a little bit of it out.
-Kaity (Bijou): She's been through a lot and any situation I might not know how to handle, she gives good and honest advice.
-Molly (Solar): It's wonderful how she could take any situation and give a positive twist on it. Even when I don't speak up, she can sense when something is wrong and will not hesitate to ask.
-Melvin (Ice_Dragon): I don't recall any recent times when I've gone to him while sad, but I know he's a smart fellow and will give some good philosophical advice.
Those are off the top of my head but I'm probably missing a few people.
As a person who often bottles up their emotions and doesn't have a lot of offline friends to talk to, let alone be a shoulder to cry on, I usually deal with emotions on my own. However, Jaye has always been there to listen to my complaints, worries and troubles, and often gives really great advice and comfort. Cheers for that. #JayeIsBae
I just wanted to say like...I'm so grateful that so many of you can talk to me about things that bother me and I just want all of you to know that you've all done the same for me and I'm really thankful and I love you guys <3
@Shhmew: I know what you're saying, that some people try to be supportive but don't say the right things. I saw something like that in your AMA thread when Connor/Ginger asked you for an opinion on him, that he's someone you can appreciate for how he goes out of his way to be nice to you and does a lot more for you than basic short messages that people try to support you with. I even recall you saying something like that to me in 2013 about how your ex-boyfriend would constantly remind you that you had him but even then you still felt kind of empty.
But as for specific people on this forum, there are Bijou and Meru, two people who are always willing to say at least something nice to me if I'm not feeling great, even if they don't say too much. Athena mentioned me as well, and she's been there to listen to me when I've needed it, both when she was active back in 2015 when we first talked and recently when she rejoined. So yeah, she's been able to cheer me up when in need.
And of course there's Dino. She can be slow in getting back to me, but she's usually very insightful and goes in detail in my conversations with her. Remember how I said a little bit ago about Shhmew saying to Ginger that she finds how he's been supportive to her much more uplifting than generic short "wishing you the best" messages? Dino is like that for me - she does her best to be as understanding to me as possible and says whatever she feels she needs to. Likewise, I've cheered her up plenty of times too.